Van gets on with it
I was going to title this “Van Gets a Divorce.” But then I thought that sounded like an ending. I’d rather we were getting round to the beginning. So, let’s get on with things. I feel required to apologize to the three people who read my previous blogs regularly. I am sorry. I will try really hard to avoid a future block-creating crisis in my life that will cause long absences from the computer. Really hard. Really, really hard, for the sake of all four of us. Thanks in advance for not commenting below with any sort of apologies for the current crisis.
I have been separated since the beginning of September (emotionally before physically). The logistics of it were relatively simple. I’m good at that stuff. You take this, I take that, these are my friends, but I understand that this particular one is yours. The crying and kicking of myself went on, off and on, for maybe a good month. But, truthfully, I don’t really have any regrets. Maybe this sort of thing is easier when you realize at the end that you really (say it again), really are not supposed to be with someone, and it’s just no sense thinking about what might have been.
I know that this isn’t much of a post at all, but am hoping that it will be more of an intro to a series of blogs. Going on and on here won’t be very interesting. Hopefully the next one will. Now let’s move forward, all four of us, and hopefully have some fun.
PS — Not sure if I’ll be blogging about music much. But I want to mention that if you are bummed out at all, you should go get the new Weezer album. Rivers & Co. is at least 30% responsible for my getting through this with my sanity intact.
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Van, it’s incredible to see you writing about this in such a matter-of-fact kind of way, with so little time having passed. But it sounds like you are dealing with the process in a really healthy way.
I do enjoy reading the things you post here, so I am looking forward to seeing more of it. Thanks for letting us know how you’re doing.
Thanks, Jason! You are not the first one to comment that I am too level headed. My best friend has told me that she is on eggshells waiting for the real breakdown. I did have like 15 months of couple’s counseling & trying to decide whether or not we would stay together to prep me for the inevitable. And really, I would just rather move on and find the happiness somewhere new. I’m looking forward to working it out in font as well, maybe that will help, and hopefully be entertaining…
Writing is cheaper than therapy and vital to survival. I look forward to reading your work and what develops in the new stages of your life. New paths make great, interesting, and at times, odd stories.
You are a pillar of strength.
Thanks Jac- It is purely by choice- all by choice… I’m thinking the next blog will have a double theme: Why I need a wife, and why I’m going to just go ahead & start dating these insanely young guys that keep asking me out. Stay tuned chica!