Let me break it down for everyone real quickly. Most attitudes on race or ethnicity are driven by culture, not by behavior or appearance. For example, most bias towards central and south Asians in this country has to do with intolerance for Muslim culture, and little to do with resentment or skin color. Passengers on the plane do not stare in fear at a cleanly shaven Arab man wearing a baseball cap and tennis shirt. They do stare at long beards and turbans though.

Here are the most significant truths about race and ethnicity in America. Many whites for some reason think of non-white American culture as foolish. They also conveniently overlook that their economic prosperity and power comes in part from a generational head start. On the other hand, many non-whites do not appreciate that so-called white culture, which reflects a demographic majority, is a logical social standard in this country. And black Americans in particular disproportionately support social engineering and entitlements, even though this social attitude and political leaning have paid few dividends for their group in the past.

There are people who find this discussion unsettling. But you should not. What does it mean if someone is racist? If he or she is not doing anything illegal or harmful, it means nothing. Whether someone calls you a racist or a racial slur, the only people you should care what they think are friends, family, and employers. Only if you love me or pay me do I care what you think of me.

So let us stop being so sensitive to racism and ethnic bias, because it perpetuates a softer more subliminal bias that gives too much importance to race and ethnicity in the first place. The stigmas of black and white are enough in this country. Last thing we need are the stigmas of racist and non-racist. Basically, respect your neighbor, his culture, and his history. After that just keep it real — no matter what people think.